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I am at a loss with my three year old

I know this is probably most three year old’s but I have been struggling with mine for over a month. She has been beyond moody, ruthless, stubborn and hard headed. It is a battle with her about EVERYTHING. When I say everything, I literally mean everything.

Dinner time

She will demand food all day and if she doesn’t get what she wants, she throws a huge tantrum. She says she’s hungry all the time but when it’s dinner time, she wants nothing to do with it, even if it’s food she loves. Las night was one of the worst nights. I didn’t let her snack all day like she wanted so she should of been hungry by dinner but she refused to eat more than one bite. My mom even tried to get her to eat by hand feeding her and she just spit it out and screamed no. After multiple attempts of trying to get her to eat, I gave up and stuck her in time out for not listening and being rude to everyone, which lead to a meltdown.

Bedtime

Every single night is a battle with getting her to lay down, no matter how tired she is. She tells me things like, “I can’t sleep!”, “I don’t like my bed!”, I’m scared of my bed” ( even though she is not) or she’ll just say straight NO to me. Last night was one of the worst nights ever because of the melt down over dinner. She would not stay in her bed. She kept jumping on her bed, throwing things, yelled at me, screamed, told me she didn’t like me, and just refused to lay down. This lasted for about 2 hours and got to the point where I had to just ignore her because anything I did or say was not working.

Not getting her way

Oh boy, if she doesn’t get her way when she wants it, the world has ended. She screams and stomps her feet and tells me that it isn’t fair while crossing her arms (This she picked up from someone else’s kid a while back.-_-).
There is absolutely no reasoning with her. If it’s not her way when she wants, her whole day is ruined.

Her favorite things to tell me lately

  • I don’t like you
  • You’re mean
  • No way Jose
  • Too bad, so sad
  • Want me to pinch you?
  • No no no no

Everyone keeps telling me that the way she’s acting is a three year old thing and that she’ll grow out of it, but I keep thinking, what if she doesn’t? What if I am stuck with this as a teenager?! Lord help me. I need all positive thoughts and wine sent my way for this child.

Any of you mama’s going through the same thing? Please tell me I am not the only one losing my sanity!

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Surviving on wine.

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I’m at a loss. Like a 100% loss… I hate to say this and I feel like a terrible mother for it, but my 2 1/2 year old is more than likely a demon. Okay… maybe not a demon, but pretty close. She’s been so hard to deal with about everything that I rely on naptime to recuperate and to have a break. Most days I feel like I have no sanity left. My 2 year old takes terrible twos to a whole new place that we’ll probably be at for years. God help me.

Stubborn & Strong-willed

She is so stubborn and strong-willed to the point that nothing works… No bribes. Not spankings (If you don’t agree with the way I discipline MY child and feel the need to give me your opinion about it, then get the hell off my blog, I ain’t got time for that). Not time outs. Literally nothing. I mean, the other day she asked me to flick her in the mouth for saying, “Be quiet!”. REALLY?! Now she’s telling me when and how to discipline her?!

Trying to break the “N” word

I have been trying to break her of saying the word, “No” when she is asked or told to do or not do something… Yeah, it’s not going very well…at all. Now she tells me, “Stop it, Mama!”, “Go away!” and “Leave me alone!”. Sometimes, the 1, 2, 3 method works, but 8 times out of 10, it doesn’t. When it doesn’t work, she screams at me and continues to do what she was told not to do.

Poor Animals

The BIGGEST issue I have with her right now is her being mean to our 2 kittens… She isn’t intentionally trying to hurt them, or at least I hope not, but she’s so rough with them. They literally run and hide from her. I’m trying to get her to just leave them alone altogether because she doesn’t understand that she’s being too rough with them and hurting them, but that’s not working at all. Half the time when I tell her to leave them alone, she stares at me and says with a straight face, “Stop it! Leave me alone!” and then continues to pick up and chase the kittens. This is when she gets a spanking and then she’ll stop… for the time being. When she does get spankings, she will tell me, “Don’t smack-a-me!”

Defeated

I love my daughter more than anything, but she’s so hard to deal with right now. So hard that I don’t have the energy to even tell her to quit doing something sometimes. Just the other day, she got up and laid on the coffee table for the 5th time in 45 minutes and at that point, I didn’t have the will power nor the energy to tell her to get off, because I didn’t want the tantrum I knew was going to follow…

When all else fails, bribe em’

I have never been the kind of mom to bribe their child to get them to do something, because it teaches them nothing but getting rewarded when being bad, but I’m not going to lie, I bribed my daughter with marshmallows to sit in her  chair at the kitchen table so I could drink wine in the bathroom and pee alone…in peace… I needed to regain my sanity and I think wine helps with that.

Thanks a lot, Grandpa

I use to have her pretty well trained that if she eats anything, she knows she has to sit in her chair to eat it, but lately it’s been world war 3 trying to get her anywhere near the kitchen table, because I found out that when I’m at work and Grandpa is watching her, he lets her eat what ever the hell she wants on the couch including red popsicle! now I have to deal with her meltdowns at every meal and snack time.. and red popsicle stains on my couch. 

Hit or miss

Averie does have her good days… but those are hit or miss. One wrong question can destroy her whole day. Just the other day, she asked me for bubble water (Flavored water) and when I told her to come and pick which flavor, she had a meltdown. She’ll ask for something specific to eat and when I give it to her, BOOM, meltdown.

Is there a light at the end of this tunnel?

There hasn’t been literally ONE day without a tantrum or full blown meltdown in the last 2 months.
LITERALLY EVERYDAY!
I’ve tried everything..
-Spending more time playing with her
-Taking her out of the house more
-Time out’s/spankings
-Taking something away
-Talking to her
-Reward her for good behavior
-More family
Nothing has worked…

I know that this is just a phase and to just keep trying, but I’m losing my marbles and just feel defeated all the time.

Thank god for Marshmallows & Wine

Marshmallows are pretty much the only food that can get her to do what I want without a tantrum and wine is the only beverage that helps me cope with the fact that most my sanity is gone and probably won’t return until she’s in college.

What are your methods to a stubborn toddler who won’t listen? Or what are your ‘hid in the bathroom’ indulgences? At this point, I’ll try anything. HA.

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