So, as you know from my previous post, I haven’t slept much because of my three year old being a demon and refusing to go to bed without a fight, so I am in a ranty mood.
She is the most stubborn, ruthless three year I have ever met. She will say anything to piss you off because she knows it does. Last night, she told me after I gave her her toy back, “You won’t take it anymore!” She also told me she didn’t like me anymore. A while back, she picked up some habits from someone else’s kid. When she’s mad now, she crosses her arms, stomps her feet and grunts and says, “It’s not fair!” It has been an ongoing battle with her for over a month about pretty much everything. Lack of sleep is getting the best of me….
I have the worst internet company
So I have internet and let me tell you, the last few months, I have had the worst experience with them. First of all, I pay for the top internet and there is ALWAYS an outage or something wrong with the modem. I had someone mess up my ENTIRE account and they tried to charge me an extra $500 for stuff that I had already paid for and things that were promised to me for free. I rely on my internet for my job because I work from home and because of my internet company, I’ve had to take extra time off of work because my internet wasn’t working.
Some people need to learn to be better friends
So, it takes A LOT to really bother me, but when someone I’ve been friends with for over 10 years doesn’t invite me to her wedding or even her bridal shower, yeah that bothers me. It hurts more than it bothers me. I had another friend who I was friends with for over 13 years. We did everything together. She didn’t choose me as even a bridesmaid. When I asked her why, she said because she already had too many. One of her bridesmaids wasn’t even her friend…. Made no sense.
So, last week I had discovered a heart drawn on the outside of my bedroom window in the dust. It was Monday when I discovered it, and I know it had not been there all weekend. I didn’t think of it too much, because I thought my husband did it or one of the kids or something. Well, later that night, I asked my husband if he did and he said he didn’t. I didn’t believe him until I saw the seriousness in his face. My step son wasn’t here that week, so he couldn’t have done it and after going outside and looking at it, I realized that it was too high up on the window for either of my girls to do it. I then asked everyone who had been at my house recently if they did it and none of them did…. Naturally, it scared the shit out of me. I had stalkers in high school and one of them pops up every now and then still to this day and that was almost 10 years ago…. I was so paranoid that I got camera’s installed in my front and back yards. which leads me into my next rant…..
So I called my internet/cable/security company to order cameras to be installed… I talked to the first guy from the home automation department first and he informed me that he had to switch my account to a different account number because there were two under my address (Makes no sense), so I was like, :Alright, is that going to mess up anything on my account?” He said no. 10 minutes after I got off the phone, my cable stopped working and then my internet…. Long story short, this guy messed up my whole account and I literally had to redo EVERYTHING. I spent over 3 HOURS talking with OVER 6 PEOPLE to get everything fixed. I had to change my internet name twice, reprogram all three of my cable boxes and had to even get the billing fixed because my bill on the new account number was going to be higher than what it actually was suppose to be.
I was not a happy person. How does someone mess something up so badly?! I wasted 3 hours, 4 minutes and 32 seconds of my life talking to a million different people. It was ridiculous. I did however end up getting a pretty good deal on the cameras and for them causing me such an inconvenience, I got the installation of the cameras for free, as well as a credit for one month of the automation.
I still haven’t found out who did the heart. Really creepy. Now we have a light bulb in the back yard that will automatically turn on when the camera detects motion.
So I don’t know if you guys Facebook or not (Who doesn’t really?), but that’s where I find out all of whats going on in the world. So, I’m not going to lie, I think a lot of bullshit is going on…
So Last week, we had not one, not two, but THREE earthquakes here in Las Vegas, all within 2 days. That’s not normal for us at all and they were pretty decent sized ones. We were actually at Dairy Queen when It happened. My step daughter was climbing back in the booth and then the table started to move and I thought she was doing it. Then the booth itself started to move and I was like, “Dang, Lanaia, you’re moving the whole table.” Well, she wasn’t moving the table. Then the lights started moving. It was the first earthquake I was ever awake for. So, that was just crazy.
STOP BEING RACIST, IT’S NOT CUTEBUT HALLE IS!
Another thing people are getting crazy about is the fact that they are having a woman of color play the part of Little Mermaid…. I have to say first, WHO GIVES A SHIT?! Like honestly. Maybe she was the better audition. Maybe we NEED more diversity in the world (Which I think we do). Or maybe SHE WAS THE BETTER AUDITION!!! There are so many other problems in the world, like REAL problems and y’all let the fact that a woman of color playing the part of Ariel, get your panties in a wad?! Y’all have shit ass backwards! I’m not sure why guys are bitching about this, I’m sure they don’t even watch this movie! One of the questions that was asked on Facebook was, “How do I explain this to my kids?” Um, you tell them that Halle was obviously the best audition and we will root for her no matter what! How about that? You are encouraging racism! Let Halle Bailey have her time and STFU everyone. It’s not that big of a deal, I promise. Besides, HAVE Y’ALL HEARD HER VOICE?!?!
I lost my want for Ice Cream
So, the new STUPID internet tread is to go to a store, open a container of ice cream, lick the top and then put it back. Wait, WHAT?! First off, DON’T Y’ALL HAVE A ANYTHING better to do than to just go to stores and lick the tops of ice creams? Second, y’all are disgusting. Really. Apparently it’s also a thing to spit in the Arizona teas and take a swig of mouth wash and then put them back. What the hell is wrong with you sicko’s?! We live in a world of non intelligent beings, because not only are they ruining a lot of products and risking giving whatever they have to someone else, they are recording this shit and PUTTING IT ON SOCIAL MEDIA! Like what in the hell?! The girl who started it all actually went to jail for licking a container of Blue Bell ice cream because SHE PUT IT ON THE INTERNET! People are idiots.
I just don’t get it. People choose to be mad at the most ridiculous things, do the most ridiculous things and just act ridiculous in general! Here’s a bit of advice for everyone:
Stop being racist, you are the one who looks like a fool
Stop spreading your nasty germs
Don’t judge anyone
Recognize your wrong doing
Mind your business
Discipline your kids if you see them hurting others
Take a freaking shower
Don’t parent other people’s kids unless they give you permission and if they do,
Don’t intrude on their parenting
Don’t be lazy, work for your success
Stop trying to force your religion on others
Don’t destroy the earth
And just don’t be an asshole
This rant is over. Had to get this out. If people just stopped being assholes, this world would be such a happy place.
Here’s what I mean by this post. Have you ever felt like you weren’t someone’s or anyone’s person that they thought of first or even second? I’ve felt like this most of my life. I was never the person that anyone thought of for anything really. In high school, I was never one of those people who ever got anything on their birthday from their friends to carry around school. I was never the one that someone thought of to send a Valentine’s flower to in school, but all my friends got one from their friends. I was just never thought of to do anything for in high school like most of my friends the people I knew were.
After high school was pretty much the same. I still wasn’t really ever thought of first or even second. I had a friend who was getting married and I wasn’t asked to be one of her bridesmaids. Why this hurt so much was because her and I were best friends since middle school and did a lot together. When it came to me or her other friends, I was never chosen. I always tried to tell myself that there was a logical explanation for her not asking me to be one of her bridesmaids, and other’s told me the same thing, but when I asked her why she didn’t ask me, her answer was, “Because I already had too many…”
There will be times where I see on social media that my family members are going to dinner or a concert or just somewhere and I don’t even get thought of to invite. I’m not even thought of for important things sometimes when it comes to my family.
I would like to think there are logical explanations for being treated this way, but still to this day as a grown adult, it still happens. I still rarely get invited to Dinner, or a concert. I am never thought of randomally for an act of kindness. It’s kind of like I am just there and not anyone’s person if that makes sense. I’m just rarely ever thought of it feels like, except by those very few, and I am talking very few as in I can count on less than one hand, who think of me.
The worst part about all this is, I do these things for the people I care about. I think to invite anyone that I’ve called a friend to lunch or to an event. I think of making people happy and get them something for their birthday just so they feel like they are someone’s person. I’m the kind of person who will go all out for someone’s birthday. I do these things for the people I care about and always have but most of these people I’ve done these things for, don’t do it for me.
If you feel like this, just know that you aren’t alone and we’re in this boat together. We can be each other’s people.
I can handle a lot of idiocy. I really can. What I can’t handle is sexist idiocy. This past Tuesday night, I was at my friend Gina’s house. When I went to leave, I put Averie in the car and then turned the key and…. the car clicked and didn’t start. I called my husband because he’s a mechanic and described to him the issue and he said it was my starter. Gina’s husband, Chris looked at it as well and he said the same thing (He’s also a mechanic).
Once we determined that it really wasn’t going to start, I called for a tow truck (Luckily, I have roadside service through my insurance). The tow truck guy got there after about an hour and let me tell you, he was one of the most sexist guys ever. He pulls up and says, “What’s wrong with it?” I told him that it wouldn’t start because of the starter. He then said, without even looking at the car, “It’s probably a dead battery…” I explained to him that it was not a dead battery and that I know what it sounds like when you try and start a car with a dead battery. He looked at me with a very condescending look and said, “I jump it.” Once again, I tried to explain to him that jumping my car would do no good because it’s not a dead battery. He then asked for my keys and said, “I will show you that it the battery.” (Yes, his grammar was terrible)
I handed him they keys and chuckled at him. He said, “watch, you know what you’re talking about, right?” in a very condescending tone. He turns the key, it made the click noise that it made when I tried to start it which CLEARLY did not sound like it was a dead battery and said, “See… It’s the battery… I need to jump it to get it on my truck,” Mind you guys, Chris had already tried to jump it and it did nothing for it. At this point, I’m getting irritated because he was not listening and was clearly not mechanically knowledgeable. I said, “Do you think I would of called for you to come tow my car if I could get it to start?!” He just stared at me like I didn’t know what I was talking about. I walked over to Gina and told her what was going on and asked her to call her Husband out here to deal with this guy.
I walked back over to the car and the idiot tow truck guy was looking for the battery to try and jump it and HE COULDN’T FIND IT. I told him it was under the air filter cover. He then tugs at the cover like he can’t understand why it isn’t coming off… I told him that he has to unlatch it from both sides…. I did it for him… Chris walks out and tells him that jumping it will do no good because it isn’t the battery. Tow truck driver stared at him with a blank stare and said, “Oh… really?” YES REALLY, I JUST TOLD YOU THAT. Chris tells him that he tried to jump it with a car jumper that he’s jumped semi’s with. The guy just continues to stare at Chris. Chris said, “If you want to waste time and jump it, go ahead…” So of course, the guy tries, but COULDN’T TELL WHERE THE POSITIVE AND NEGATIVE SIDES WERE AND HAD NO IDEA WHERE TO HOOK THE CABLES UP AT. When he hooked the cables up on his side, he only hooked one side up. Chris literally helped him with jumping the car.
Guess what guys?! IT DIDN’T WORK!
My husband is a mechanic and I’ve been with him for 6 years. Gina’s husband is also a mechanic and she’s been with him for just as long AND she’s worked in automotive shops. We all know some things about car issues.
Gina was standing by Chris, watching the tow truck guy try to put the air filter cover back on and HE COULDN’T DO IT. What I love about Gina is, she has no filter and will say anything that pretty much comes to her mind. Well, that’s exactly what happened. She walked away laughing and said, “He thinks he knows that it is a battery issue but he can’t even get the air filter cover back on!”
Or even take it off…..
After the idiot tow truck driver figured out that it really wasn’t the battery, he proceeded trying to get it on his truck. He couldn’t figure out how to move my car to be able to angle his truck in there to get my car up on his truck… Once again, Chris to the rescue. He literally PUSHED my car when it was in neutral. Apparently that was too hard for the tow truck guy to figure out…
After he gets my car on his truck, he asks, “How far is it from here?” I tell him where it’s by and he just said, Okay and started walking away. I asked him if he needed the address (Even though I had given it to the dispatch person on the phone) and he said, no and that he had it. IF YA FREAKING HAD IT, WHY THE HELL ARE YOU ASKING WHERE AND HOW FAR IT IS FROM HERE? Google maps literally tells you all of that!
First of all, I called a TOW TRUCK PERSON, not a wanna be Mechanic. I specifically told him that I am married to a mechanic who has been one for the last 20 years. I did not need nor want him to try and diagnose my car, I just wanted him to tow it.
Gina took me and Averie home because there was no way I was getting in the car with that guy and I am so glad I didn’t because as we were following him back to my house, he was all over the road and even RAN A FOUR WAY STOP AT NIGHT TIME! He must of felt like an idiot when he got to my house because my husband was waiting outside and the guy literally just unloaded my car and left without saying a word to my husband. I guess he didn’t want to share his mad mechanic skills with my husband.
Just because I am a woman, men shouldn’t assume I don’t know anything about a specific topic. They have no idea who I am and what I’ve learned. That concludes my weekly rant. Have a fantastic day!
This is a form of mom shaming. When mom’s put mom’s down, as well as put their kids down. I’ve had to deal with this a lot since becoming a mom from both family and friends. There’s just things that you don’t have a right to say or do. Not as a mom, not as a human being. It’s just not okay, and it makes you (Excuse my french) an asshole. You aren’t giving parenting advice because it wasn’t asked for. You’re just being an asshole. Here’s what I’ve experienced and what some of my friends and family has experienced from mom shamers.
You do realize that they are two TOTALLY DIFFERENT kids, right?Different brain. Different way of thinking. Just different. Comparing what my child does to what yours does just makes you look like an idiot. Just because my kid does something a certain way and yours doesn’t, doesn’t mean crap. It LITERALLY MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING BENEFICIAL to my kid or to me and you just wasted your time giving me UNWANTED “parenting advice” and just made me lose respect for you. Way to go ace.
Putting your two cents in
The only time you should feel obligated to put your two cents in about another mom’s parenting is if the child is in danger. That’s it. Nothing more. If your cents aren’t asked for, keep it in your damn pocket. Don’t tell another mom how she should praise or punish HER kids. How would you feel if you were insulted as a mother? Yeah… Think about that.
A child is like a butterfly in the wind, some can fly higher than others, But each one flies the best it can. Why compare one against the other? Each one is different. Each one is special.
Making comments towards another mom or her kids is wrong. You don’t have that right. No human has the right to belittle another person. No one is better than anyone else. Don’t make comments about what they eat/feed their kids, about what’s on their TV or radio. Here’s an example of what I’m talking about. “I don’t buy that for my kids because it’s got to much sugar in it.” Or, “I don’t understand why you have this playing all day. I can’t stand it.” Here’s a simple solution to all of this… Don’t like it? Don’t come to my house. Plain and simple.
Doctor Mom shamer over here
Seriously, keep your unwanted medical advice to yourself. Unless you see something seriously wrong, like me neglecting my child, or you are an actual doctor, stop acting like a freaking doctor. Stop telling me why I should do this because you believe in it… Again, my kid. Not yours. Don’t insult another mother by telling her she should make an appointment for the way her kid talks, how they eat, walk, sleep or anything… If I thought something was wrong, I’m pretty sure I would have the common sense as a mother to take care of it. Unwanted Medical advice is a for sure way to lose respect from someone.
“You spoil your kids”
First of all, that’s none of your damn business if I do. I’m not teaching my kids to be entitled. I’m teaching them to be humble. My kid may get what she asks for every once in a while, because she deserves it. That doesn’t make her spoiled. My kid may have a lot of toys or some pricey things, but my kid shares. Everything. She will share the food she’s eating, with you. Do you think that’s a spoiled kid? Uh, I think not, Susan.
“You aren’t enforcing punishment”
How in the hell does anyone think they have the right to say this to another mom? Not only are you saying my kid is out of control, but you are insulting me as a mother. Why do you think you have that right? Ever think that maybe I’ve spent countless nights without sleep? Ever think that I’ve tried everything I could think of and I just need to breathe? Ever think that maybe why I do what I do is none of your business? No you don’t because you are stuck in your own world thinking that you are high and mighty enough to shame other moms and think that your are actually helping them.
Dear all you mom shamers that are mom’s,
Unless someone asks for your advice, keep it to yourself. Worry about your own kids and stop trying to parent mine.
Sincerely, one fed up mom.
What I’ve realized is, about 80% of the moms that’s mom shame other moms are they ones who suck at parenting or have some sort of guilt about what they do in their kids lives.
Don’t read this and then contact me asking if you’ve ever done this to me, because if you have to ask, then obviously you have a guilty mind and probably have done this to me. If you read this and think, “Damn… I said this to Linda last week…” then you are the reason why mom’s can’t get along and you should reevaluate the way you live and parent and stop acting like your God’s greatest gift to motherhood. Sound good?