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5 Troubles of Having a Big Family

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Having a family of your own is one of the best feelings in the world. Holding your little rug-rats till they eventually grow older is the other best feeling as a mother. If you would have told me in middle school that I was going to be a mom, I probably would have laughed in your face and said some obscured line. If you would have told me I was going to be a mom of three mini-sized Tasmanian devils then I would have probably ran the other.

However with the best feelings in the world, come the problems and obstacles! I never knew raising three children would be one of the hardest tasks I would ever have to face on a day-to-day basis. It is worth it but can be troubling at times. For those who have even bigger family numbers, I applauded you! I would not be able to handle being in your shoes for a day.

I have come up with 5 problems to having a bigger family. None of these are to scare you out of having a big family, by all means the more the merrier!

Space/Clutter

When having a bigger family space becomes an issue. From the living room being converted into the play room to no longer having your own room. Here at the H. household we are a family of five! Even in a two bedroom apartment we are often cramped for space. My living room looks like a war zone of toys that was made by tiny elves. Organization becomes key when having a bigger family, however I lack at the thought of organizing toys! Clutter is another thing that comes with having three pint-sized human beings. Mom space becomes their space!

Alone Time

Having one child is easy, it takes little effort, in my opinion. You can do so many things and be alone for a while; you can take a nap when they nap, you can have a cup of tea and breath, or even shower in privacy! When I had my oldest I was able to do things by myself! Now having three I can’t even make food with out all three of them at my feet like tiny dogs. I won’t even get started on alone time with your better half, we have maybe one date night a month because we don’t get time alone. Our alone time is at eight at night while watching Netflix as we pass out from pure exhaustion.

Can I Super Size That?

Having a bigger family eventually means upgrading to bigger things. Not all items need upgrading but most things you will have to super size it. Example  your car is one thing that is a needed upgrade. Our previous car was a Kia Rondo. It isn’t huge but isn’t as small as a four door Honda Malibu. When I became a mother of three plus the dogs I found it extremely cramped and had to level up my car. I now own a Toyota Sienna, that’s right a mom van. Never in my life have I ever wanted a mom van, but that is the prognosis of having a bigger family.

You also have to Super Size your pantry and fridge capacity. If you have boy’s you know why, if not well lets just say having a bigger family means more mouths to feed. We now have to feed seven mouths (fur babies too), three of which are boy’s! I run out food faster than running out of cloths to wash.

Sorry I’m Late

I use to be a very punctual person! I would arrive to work an hour before my shift started, be on time for birthdays, and never miss a time frame. Now trying to get three deaf little humans to get their butts in gear has made me become less that punctual. It is very rarely that I show up on time for things. I am either ten minutes behind or calling saying that we will be extremely late. Hot mess moms know this trouble!

Asking your children to put shoes on turns into you becoming Godzilla and yelling the question. My family wonders why my daughter has two mismatched socks, it’s because I would rather get out the door and her be alive then worry about the color of socks she happened to find. This also falls into super sizing and space, but shoving all the kids in the car is another problem for being late. One always has to pee right after you buckle them, you have to ask if they are all still buckled when starting the car, and by the time you start to dive off you realize someone forgot their shoes after asking seven thousand times to put them on!

“You have your hands full!”

If there is one thing I can’t stand its strangers having the need to make comments about your rather large family size. I don’t get it as much anymore unless the children are acting up in public but I know it happens behind my back. When I had my youngest I was twenty-two, I always got “Your too young to have three!” or “You sure do have your hands full!”.  Yes having three unruly children can be a handful at times I already know this you don’t need to point it out. As much as I try to appreciate the comments I don’t need a stranger telling me that I have my hand full. What are my hands full of exactly? Is it the endless energy that I wish I could contain and use or is it the fact that they are actually playing with each other despite me saying don’t be so rowdy in public?

But let me tell you something about all these reasons

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Having more children to raise is hard work but it is worth the undeniable and unconditional love you get in return. Having three kids to love is beyond fulfilling even in the worst of times. Yes they make me want to pull my hair out, yes at twenty-four I have started getting grey hairs but at the end of the day my three Jedi’s loving me is the best feeling in the world. They don’t care about the lacking space, the being late or all the other reasons. They care about loving us and us loving them.

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5 things to expect when potty training.

5 Things to expect when you potty train your toddler
For the last couple of months, we’ve really been trying to potty train our 2 year old. It’s been…uh, exhausting.
Averie has always been a pretty easy baby/toddler. I mean, she started sleeping through the night around 4 and a half, 5 months old, never had issues as a baby, never had issues when learning how to do new things, nothing. Nothing was really difficult about her… except for this potty training and the big girl bed training. We thought this was going to be easy too… boy were we wrong.
Averie is so stubborn and wants things her way. This has made things really difficult when potty training.
If you have a stubborn, strong willed 2 year old, here’s what you can probably expect when you potty train.

Always and then never having to go.

Toddlers know how to test your limits for sure. One day, all they’ll want to do is go sit on the potty. My daughter asked to sit on the potty 4 times the other night when I was giving her a bath… Not once did she actually go potty. And of course, she really has to go when she knows it’s her bedtime…. Then the next day she wants absolutely nothing to do with the potty and will tell you that she doesn’t have to go if you ask her and will fight you and scream if you really try to encourage her.

It’s a joke to them.

They know that you want them to go so bad that it then becomes a joke to them and they tease you with it.
My daughter will run to the potty and sit down and I know she sees the excitement in my face, and she uses that against me and say, “Mama, look! I pee pee!” When I get all excited and look and then realize there’s nothing in the toilet, she laughs and says, “No pee pee!” She’s evil. She will also tell me that she has to poop when she had already half way pooped. Lol

It’s raining pee…

Expect pee… like everywhere. On the couch, rugs, beds… everywhere. One time I stuck Averie on the potty and she sat there for like 6 or 7 minutes or so on her own. She didn’t go in the potty at all bur then literally, 10 seconds after she got off the potty, she peed on the bathroom floor.

Laundry, Laundry Laundry.

Laundry is at it’s worst when you’re potty training. You thought it was bad before… wait until you’re washing urine filled everything. You can get away with hand wiping food or a bit of dirt off clothes or sheets but not pee. You HAVE to full on wash that out.

You aren’t really saving money.

You might think you are saving money by not having to buy diapers anymore, but really, you’re not. What you’re not spending on diapers, you’re spending on laundry soap, bigger water bill, big kid underwear and pull-ups. I know, this one is tough to hear. Sorry to burst your bubble.

 

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BONUS:

Think about this… You never thought you’d be so excited for another human peeing and pooping in the toilet, did you? Hahahahaha. Parenthood at it’s finest right there.

Jessie

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5 things you shouldn’t say to a mom.

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There are way more than 5 things that a non-mom shouldn’t say to a mom, but these 5 are my personal favorites. Yes, people have actually said these to me before and no, I didn’t break anyone’s teeth. Thought about it though…
 

“That’s not good for your kid to eat.”

…Just like those fries aren’t good for you to eat, Susan? Last time I checked, this was MY kid and I pay for her food. You try getting a toddler to eat well balanced meals every single day! It’s just not reality, Susan!

“You aren’t bringing your kid, are you?”

For one, this is a rude want to ask, and two, if my kid isn’t welcome to come with her mother, then why the heck would I want to go, Mary?! No thanks, I’ll stay home and watch Sesame Street with my unwelcome kid..

“You should teach your kid this… or that…”

…And I think your mom should re-teach you manners, Tammy. This is MY kid. Do you have kids, Tammy? No? You have a dog? Yeah, not even close to the same thing. You don’t like the way I teach my kid or what I teach her? Then I suggest you better find some more dog mom friends, huh?
 

“Can you tell your kid to be quiet?!”

Yeah, if I could really stop my 2 YEAR OLD from being loud on command, don’t you think I would have done that already, Janet? Let’s be real here, as awesome as I am, I am not a fairy god mother with a magic wand. Don’t like it? Then I’ll take my screaming kid and go to Wal-Mart where all the other screaming kids and their parents congregate. There I know we’ll fit in.
 

“Your house is messy.”

Yes, I’m well aware my house isn’t in perfect, tip-top  shape like yours, Linda, but do you have kids? No? Then you wouldn’t know the distinct similarities between a tornado and a toddler. Go ahead and clean my messy, Linda. Then sit here with me and wait for the storm and be prepared to eat your words.
 
Seriously, if you aren’t a mom and have no idea what parents deal with on a daily basis, then you should probably keep your trap closed. Mom’s lack a lot of sleep, energy and sanity… They can snap at any moment, so it would be in your best interest to watch what you say and ask, especially if you are only a mom to animals.
Just saying.
 
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BONUS IGNORANT PHRASE:

 
“You shouldn’t have anymore kids.”
This is just down right ignorant! Do you watch my kids, Betty? Do you feed, pay for, or care for my kids, Betty? Are you married to my husband, Betty? I’m pretty sure if I want to reproduce more cute little humans into this world, that’s 100% my choice, and 10000% not your business. As a matter of fact… Since you think its alright to even say this to a mother, you definitely shouldn’t reproduce, Betty.
 
*Susan, Mary, Tammy, Janet, Linda and Betty were not harmed in the writing of this blog.*
Jessie