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Friendships don’t mean much anymore I guess

I know, I know. I haven’t been posting as much, but I have been sick as hell off and on for the last couple of months. I have also been really battling my depression after a few events that happened, but I am back and here to stay.

Friendships don’t mean much I guess

I’ve been battling with myself about this for weeks now. I’ve been trying to talk myself into there being a logical reason why… but then I found out the truth..

When I was younger, 16 or 17, I dated this guy for over a year. We were friends for years before we even dated and remained good friends after we broke up. He’s been over with me and my ex and hung out. I’ve done photos for him and I even did a free photoshoot for him and his new wife.

He’s been in my life for over 10 years and we remained friends… So I thought, until I didn’t get an invite to their wedding. I kept telling myself that she’s probably uncomfortable with it but then multiple people told me that if she was uncomfortable with me being around him, then she shouldn’t have been okay with me doing their pictures.

I found out from someone who is also going to his wedding, why I wasn’t invited… Apparently certain family members didn’t think it was a good idea to invite me. Yeah, not taking into account that him and I have been friends for a lot of our lives and also not taking into account that I never did anything to any of them for them to dislike me so much.

Moral of the story

I did a photo shoot for my Ex and his new wife for free because I have been friends with him for over 10 years and because I was happy he found his person only to be hurt by not even being invited to his reception. I guess friendship doesn’t really mean shit to anyone anymore.

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7 reasons why you need a blunt and honest friend in your life

“Being honest may not get you a lot of friends, but it’ll always get you the right ones.” – John Lennon

Here are 7 reasons why everyone should have at least one blunt and honest friend:

They won’t talk shit about you behind your back

Friends who are blunt and honest are straightforward and will say what needs to be said to your face. You will be the first to know what their issue is with you. Communication is better with a friend who will be brutally honest to your face.

They show their affection with sarcasm

They aren’t directly open with their feelings, but one sarcastic remark will make your day. They can be brutally honest and complement you all in one breath. They can say something like, “That hat is the ugliest hat ever, but it complements your face shape perfectly.” , and know you will not be offended.

They have high standards

Some people might consider them rude because they are so blunt and don’t sugarcoat anything, but they have a highly developed sense of right and wrong. Therefore they will never lie to you and if they do, they more than likely suck at it and will tell you the truth shortly after.

They have no problem with arguing

When they are sure they are right about something, they have no problem standing up for themselves and will say anything to prove their point. It can be exhausting at times, but also come in handy. They are also not afraid of a healthy debate and can keep it cool during it.

They are very selective about who the associate with

They usually have a smaller amount of friends. They value quality over quantity. If you are in that small amount of friends, be sure you are a true friend in every sense, because they think of you that way. They automatically shut negative people out of their life without bating an eyelash.

They are fun to hang out with

They are usually adventurous people. It doesn’t matter if you are at a club or at home watching netflix, they make anything fun when you are with them. They have no filter, so shit just falls out of their mouth and most of the time, it’s hilarious.

They will help you learn how to stand up for yourself

The advantage of knowing someone who can be brutally honest is that you can learn a lot from their behavior – by either observing them or just listening to what they have to say. It will help you be able to stand your ground and be straightforward and it will stop other people from walking all over you.

Do you see why this kind of friend is necessary? Do you have one of these friends?

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Everyone should have a friend who’s an Empath

I have always been super sensitive to others feelings and emotions… Not just the understanding kind of sensitive… The kind of sensitive where I mentally and emotionally feel what others are feeling. I’m an empath.

Google says that an empath is a person with the paranormal ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual. So, that pretty much means that I am psychic. Lol

Besides the sheer fact that empaths are basically psychic, I am going to give you great examples why everyone should have a friend who is an empath.

Empaths just know things (psychic)

You don’t really need to tell them anything. They can tell when something is wrong just by looking at you. They can tell when something is wrong by the way you breath or how you say one word.. This is something beyond intuition, hence why it’s considered to be a paranormal ability.

We feel what you feel as our own feelings

This is something we literally can’t help…. We’re like a blue tooth for feelings. If someone is feeling something, we automatically link to you and project your feelings too. Except, we can’t turn it off. It’s a 24/7 things, the off switch is non existent. This is probably why people like to be around empaths.

Their opinions are based off of a strong intuition

When an empath tells you that you shouldn’t welcome someone in your life, it might sound like jealousy, but it’s not. It’s because they can sense a toxic person from a mile away. Their intuition comes on stronger than ever when they are near a dishonest person. We are just trying to spare you the pain.

We are excellent listeners

We don’t just listen to your problems only to have the space to talk about our own. We listen and try to put ourselves in your shoes. We genuinely understand you and will try and come up with the best solution for your situation.

We strive for the truth

No matter how painful it can get, we strive for the truth so we will slap you with it if need be, rather than to comfort you with lies. We will slap you with the truth, but we will also be there to hold you from the pain of the truth until you can pull yourself up.

Everyone needs an empath for a friend. We are loyal and best of all, honest. We will get to know you inside and out and never forget what your favorite food is. We will understand you and your feelings to the highest degree and cry with you if that’s what you need (We can sense what you are needing in a certain moment or situation). We will be honest with you, even if it hurts. We will carry you when you can’t hold yourself up.

Do you have a a friend who is an empath? What is it like to have an empathic friend?