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Protect your energy

It’s been a long while since I’ve blogged about anything. My life got crazy to say the least. I got pregnant and had a baby boy in May which I’ll be writing about soon.

Being an empath can be hard

Lately I’ve been really trying to focus on my own energy and trying to protect it because of all the negativity that’s been in my life lately. Being an empath, tension and negative energy affect me on a deeper level. I take in what everyone else is feeling and projecting to the point where I physically get sick.

There are downfalls

Downfall about being an empath is I take on what others are feeling like they are my own feelings instead of just feeling empathy for others. I sometimes can’t help but to do this, especially with the people that mean a lot to me. I want to be there for them because I know what it feels like to be alone and need someone there, so I always try to be that person, even though it can negatively affect me.

When to get help

I finally started seeing a therapist like 5 months ago on a weekly basis for my mental health and at our last session, I talked to her about all the drama and tension that others keep bringing to my life and how it’s affecting me and she said that I need to set boundaries to protect my energy. When I told her that it’s hard for me to not be there for people that are hurting or going through something, she said, “How are you going to be any help for them if you’re not in the right state of mind because of all the tension you take in?” She’s right.

I’m being distant for my own good

I’ve been distancing myself from everyone. I’ve been trying to protect my energy. I have to set boundaries to protect my energy. I realized that when I don’t set boundaries to protect me, I am physically and severely mentally affected by it. My moods also change to the point where I don’t even know who I’m looking at when I look in the mirror… I will shut down completely and I can’t do that because my kids need me.

Sorry, not sorry. I need to protect me

To those who haven’t heard from me in while or haven’t seen me in a while, it’s nothing personal, I just need to protect me.

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Everyone should have a friend who’s an Empath

I have always been super sensitive to others feelings and emotions… Not just the understanding kind of sensitive… The kind of sensitive where I mentally and emotionally feel what others are feeling. I’m an empath.

Google says that an empath is a person with the paranormal ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual. So, that pretty much means that I am psychic. Lol

Besides the sheer fact that empaths are basically psychic, I am going to give you great examples why everyone should have a friend who is an empath.

Empaths just know things (psychic)

You don’t really need to tell them anything. They can tell when something is wrong just by looking at you. They can tell when something is wrong by the way you breath or how you say one word.. This is something beyond intuition, hence why it’s considered to be a paranormal ability.

We feel what you feel as our own feelings

This is something we literally can’t help…. We’re like a blue tooth for feelings. If someone is feeling something, we automatically link to you and project your feelings too. Except, we can’t turn it off. It’s a 24/7 things, the off switch is non existent. This is probably why people like to be around empaths.

Their opinions are based off of a strong intuition

When an empath tells you that you shouldn’t welcome someone in your life, it might sound like jealousy, but it’s not. It’s because they can sense a toxic person from a mile away. Their intuition comes on stronger than ever when they are near a dishonest person. We are just trying to spare you the pain.

We are excellent listeners

We don’t just listen to your problems only to have the space to talk about our own. We listen and try to put ourselves in your shoes. We genuinely understand you and will try and come up with the best solution for your situation.

We strive for the truth

No matter how painful it can get, we strive for the truth so we will slap you with it if need be, rather than to comfort you with lies. We will slap you with the truth, but we will also be there to hold you from the pain of the truth until you can pull yourself up.

Everyone needs an empath for a friend. We are loyal and best of all, honest. We will get to know you inside and out and never forget what your favorite food is. We will understand you and your feelings to the highest degree and cry with you if that’s what you need (We can sense what you are needing in a certain moment or situation). We will be honest with you, even if it hurts. We will carry you when you can’t hold yourself up.

Do you have a a friend who is an empath? What is it like to have an empathic friend?

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Being an Empath is terrible for my anxiety

As you all know, I am a walking ball of anxiety. Well, being an empath does not help that at all. Sometimes I love being an empath but when it comes to my anxiety, I hate it.

Pros of being an empath

  • Can pick up on tension in a crowd and leave the situation
  • You know when something is wrong with someone by the look on their face or the tone in their voice and can offer help
  • You feel what others feel
  • Makes you compassionate
  • When I am surrounded by people who are happy, I can absorb their happiness

Cons of being an empath

  • Sense tension within family and try to help even when they don’t want it
  • All the emotions and tension you pick up on causes anxiety and sadness to yourself
  • You tend to care more about other’s feelings rather than your own
  • You neglect your own emotions and feelings because you feel so much of everyone else’s.

I pick up on even the slightest tension or mood change from the people around me. I like that I am this way and can feel their emotions because then I can help them with the issue they are having, but it’s also terrible for my anxiety. When there is drama in my family (What family doesn’t have drama?) and someone is mad at me for reasons I am not aware of, I can feel that anger and tension to the max, so much that it makes me literally sick to my stomach and just uncomfortable. This is the worst part of being an empath because I already have anxiety so it amplifies my anxiety by what feels like, a million.

Tough lessons Empaths must learn to be empowered and healthy

  • You can’t save everyone
  • Sometimes you can’t save the one you want to, either.
  • If a situation is awful, you must get out even if others won’t
  • Putting up healthy boundaries will piss people off, do it anyways to protect yourself
  • Taking care of yourself isn’t selfish, it’s essential