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Three year old’s and what they do when you’re not looking

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My husband has always said our three-year- old is a ninja. Anytime I left, I always came home to something ruined, or destroyed because of our daughter. I argued with him because our daughter never got away with that kind of stuff when I was home-I paid that close attention to her. So, she never really got into things on my watch… Until recently.

I think she caught on to the fact that I watch her closer (Way closer) than anyone else and she got quicker and sneakier at doing things she isn’t suppose to do. Here is how sneaky my three-year-old has become because of me.

 

Red Lipstick

Averie and I were in my room watching T.V., she was sitting on my bed with one of her toys, watching PJ Masks. I walked out for not even 3 minutes to get a snack and drinks for us, and when I come back in, I sit on the bed and she’s in the bathroom washing her hands. I ask her to come out and when she does, she walks out all nonchalant, with bright red lipstick all over her face, eyes, stomach, legs and arms. I asked her, “What on earth is on your face?!” With a little smirk, she replied, “There’s nothing on my face.” In a matter of three minutes, she managed to find a tube of my liquid lipstick and cover pretty much her whole body in it. It took days to get it all off of her. 

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Dish Soap

One day, I was sitting on my bed folding clothes and Averie was in her room playing…So I thought. I keep my door wide open and her room is right next to mine so I should of seen her leave her room… but I didn’t. My husband was outside, working on my car and when he walks in, he finds our daughter at the kitchen sink doing dishes with an entire bottle of dish soap. It was a brand new bottle that hadn’t even been used yet and she dumped out the entire bottle into the sink of three plastic bowls that were already clean before she got to them. There were so much bubbles, that they were still present in the sink hours later. 

Vaseline 

One day, Averie said she had to pee (Don’t know why, but she always insists on telling me before she actually goes to the bathroom), so I tell her to go and to not play in my in my bathroom… I don’t know why I thought she would actually listen this time, but I did. She was in there for 5 minutes and when I went to go get her out, she had gotten into my Vaseline and put it all over her face and in her hair and topped it off with putting 4 bows in the front of her hair. After that, she gets in my bed, full of Vaseline and falls asleep.

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Snack Queen

All this girl wants is snacks. I swear, she just thinks of me as her snack bitch. She won’t eat lunch or dinner hardly ever, but she can eat snacks all day, everyday. The other day, she had already had a string cheese, a granola bar and fruit snacks, all within an hour and of course, she wanted more. I told her no more for right now and then she disappeared into her room. I go in there after about 5 minutes, because she was being quiet, and find her eating more fruit snacks and crackers… I don’t even know how she got them. All the snacks are up in a high cupboard in the kitchen and I was in the living room the whole time and didn’t hear her at all.

My three-year-old has become a master ninja if she’s figured out how to sneak around me. I notice everything. 

Tell me about your toddlers and their sneakiness.

Jessie

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Sensory activity safe for all ages 4-6 months and up

Here is a guest post by a fellow Mom blogger, Rachel! Please show her some love! 

 


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Hi everyone!

My name is Rachel and I’m the owner of Coffee Mamma I’m so honored today to be doing my very first guest post! I am a Mommy Blogger that focuses on all things Woman, Mother, Family and Child friendly. My love of beauty, passion for blogging, addiction to coffee and of course my currently 9 month old Daughter have led me to this point. I owe everything to my little Girl ❤

 


I was absolutely ecstatic when Jessie the owner of this wonderful website you have found me on had told me she liked my website so much and that she wanted me to guest post for her. Hugeeee thanks to Jessie for the Great Opportunity. I appreciate it soooooo much.

There’s something about blogging that just soothes my soul.

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Today I would like to share with all the moms and caregivers around the world a super simple sensory activity safe for all ages 4-6 months and up.

I’m not exactly sure if there is a name or exact recipe out there for this somewhere.

I think once I’ve heard it referred to as “oobleck”.

 

I’ve just been running into a lot of moms that haven’t thought this would be safe for children of really young ages. Buttt! I’m here to tell you it is!!! And your child will love it!!!

As long as your baby can sit in a highchair on their own and my personal suggestion is that they have had cereal before, then this is a great thing to introduce.

Also, my reasoning for the preference of your child starting cereal beforehand is because babies put everything in their mouth. This is a thicker substance and I just feel it’s in a child’s best interest to introduce this activity after they have had practice swallowing something thicker than breast milk or formula.


You will need:

  • A tarp or drop sheet
  • Corn Starch
  • A mixing bowl
  • Food Coloring of your choice
  • A Highchair or somewhere safe for your child to sit.
  • A whisk or a fork to mix with
  • Water

 

  1. First what you want to do is set up your drop sheet. Now, this is more necessary unnamed (1)for infants or if your young child makes a HUGEEE mess. The first time I let my daughter play with goop she got it everywhere all over my table couch and floors. I picked some painters to drop sheets up from the dollar store next time I was out. 
  2. After you have your drop sheet set up you want to place the highchair probably in the middle. You probably wouldn’t think that it could get too messy behind your child but you’d be surprised. 
  3. Now, take your mixing bowl, and put as much cornstarch as you like. Be reasonable though.
  4. If you have a really young child I would put a lot less then if you have a toddler or school-aged child. This step is where I like to add just a couple drops of food coloring. I just do whatever color I feel like doing!!! 
  5. Add little bits of water at a time while stirring. The trick with this is NOT putting TOO MUCH water in. If you add too much water then the cornstarch won’t develop the ability to be both solid and liquid at the same time. 
  6. Last but not least get your kiddo secured in their highchair and let them play! I started by pouring it in little bits directly onto my daughter’s tray. Once she was more interested in it I dumped the rest of the bowl onto her tray.

 

This is something I just love because it’s super simple and its fun, safe & sensory for all ages. There are plenty of ways you can change it up too, in different colors, a dash of cinnamon or vanilla extract. My daughter had suchhh a blast it was amazing seeing her explore and have so much fun.

Like I mentioned for this to work you really want to make sure you don’t use toooooo much water. When you first touch it should feel kinda solid, like you can run your finger over it without applying pressure and it shouldn’t move very much.

When you touch it with a bit of pressure, it will break apart a bit allowing you to pick it up.

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Pressure mixed with the warmth of your skin will turn it very liquidy so when you pick it up it will turn watery and fall through your fingers.

Here is a link to a YouTube video. I did not make this video but the person who did make this video displayed perfectly what the end results should be.

I hope you all enjoyed my little post. Thank you so much for reading again this was my first guest post so this really means a lot to me. Another big Thank You to Jessie for having me here today.

For other fun things, you can do with your young children check out some of my latest posts like 9 things you can do with you 6 – 12-month-old & 11 Baby Friendly Fall Films. Or just check out my entire site to see if anything spikes your interest. I hope to see some of you soon. Have a wonderful day everyone.

 

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The Blogger Recognition Award

over the sanddunes (1)Thank you to Alexis at My little wild life for nominating me for this!

When nominated for this award, there are rules to follow to accept the award and keep the circle going:

  • Thank the blogger that nominated you.
  • Write a post to show your award.
  • Give a brief story of how your blog started.
  • Give two pieces of advice to new bloggers.
  • Select 15 (or however many) other bloggers you want to give this award to.
  • Let them know you have nominated them and provide the link to the post you created.

How wine after nine started:

Let’s see… I started this blog back in October of 2015- after I got married, quit my job and was six months pregnant. I guess I felt like I had a story to tell, so I decided to blog about it. What pushed me to start blogging was my friend Ashley. She had a blog about her mom life and I just loved it. I talked with her numerous times about starting one and she was always telling me that I should just do it. One day, I did just that and now, here we are four years later and still blogging. I have always loved writing, so once I started one, I didn’t stop.
I’ve come a long way- many different layouts, color schemes, and three names later and I think I have finally settled down. LOL
Why I picked Wine After Nine: Well, I have a toddler… She’s not an ordinary, tantrum throwing toddler… She’s a demon. She screams like one. Fits like one. She’s sassy and stubborn. She’s persistent and  stands her ground. She puts up a hell of a fight. well, wine after she goes to bed, helps me re-gain my sanity and go the heck to sleep. No I am not an alcoholic. It’s winoholic, get it right. Only joking. So aside of that reason, look how catchy the name is! Am I right? 

Advice I Could Give

Here are a few pieces I am willing to share. Be you! Don’t write about things you pretend to know about. Don’t replicate another blog you like. Readers like rawness and honesty.
Pick a niche and go with it. Once you’ve got that down, social media and word of mouth will get people to read your blog. One of the biggest pieces of advice I can give is DON’T GIVE UP. Don’t stop writing because you think no one is reading your blog. Someone out there, somewhere relates to you, you just must be patient and keep blogging. It took me a while to get even 10 followers, but I stuck with it and now I get new followers every day. Be consistent- don’t go weeks and weeks without updating your readers. They tend to loose interest if you do that. 

Who I Bestow This Award

1. Amy over at Adventures of a mom with a wife

2. Demi over at The Lupie Momma

3. Angel from Simply sweet mama

4. Alina from Baby butterflies and coffee

 

Please go check out these awesome bloggers above! I like them, so you should too! 

 

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Things you shouldn’t say or do to another mom

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This is a form of mom shaming. When mom’s put mom’s down, as well as put their kids down. I’ve had to deal with this a lot since becoming a mom from both family and friends. There’s just things that you don’t have a right to say or do. Not as a mom, not as a human being. It’s just not okay, and it makes you (Excuse my french) an asshole. You aren’t giving parenting advice because it wasn’t asked for. You’re just being an asshole. Here’s what I’ve experienced and what some of my friends and family has experienced from mom shamers. 

 

Comparing kids

You do realize that they are two TOTALLY DIFFERENT kids, right?Different brain. Different way of thinking. Just different. Comparing what my child does to what yours does just makes you look like an idiot. Just because my kid does something a certain way and yours doesn’t, doesn’t mean crap. It LITERALLY MEANS ABSOLUTELY NOTHING BENEFICIAL to my kid or to me and you just wasted your time giving me UNWANTED “parenting advice” and just made me lose respect for you. Way to go ace.

 

Putting your two cents in

The only time you should feel obligated to put your two cents in about another mom’s parenting is if the child is in danger. That’s it. Nothing more. If your cents aren’t asked for, keep it in your damn pocket. Don’t tell another mom how she should praise or punish HER kids. How would you feel if you were insulted as a mother? Yeah… Think about that.

A child is like a butterfly in the wind,
some can fly higher than others,
But each one flies the best it can.
Why compare one against the other?
Each one is different.
Each one is special.

 

Belittling comments

Making comments towards another mom or her kids is wrong. You don’t have that right. No human has the right to belittle another person. No one is better than anyone else. Don’t make comments about what they eat/feed their kids, about what’s on their TV or radio. Here’s an example of what I’m talking about. “I don’t buy that for my kids because it’s got to much sugar in it.” Or, “I don’t understand why you have this playing all day. I can’t stand it.” Here’s a simple solution to all of this… Don’t like it? Don’t come to my house. Plain and simple.  

 

Doctor Mom shamer over here

Seriously, keep your unwanted medical advice to yourself. Unless you see something seriously wrong, like me neglecting my child, or you are an actual doctor, stop acting like a freaking doctor. Stop telling me why I should do this because you believe in it… Again, my kid. Not yours. Don’t insult another mother by telling her she should make an appointment for the way her kid talks, how they eat, walk, sleep or anything… If I thought something was wrong, I’m pretty sure I would have the common sense as a mother to take care of it. Unwanted Medical advice is a for sure way to lose respect from someone.

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“You spoil your kids”

First of all, that’s none of your damn business if I do. I’m not teaching my kids to be entitled. I’m teaching them to be humble. My kid may get what she asks for every once in a while, because she deserves it. That doesn’t make her spoiled. My kid may have a lot of toys or some pricey things, but my kid shares. Everything. She will share the food she’s eating, with you. Do you think that’s a spoiled kid? Uh, I think not, Susan.

 

“You aren’t enforcing punishment”

How in the hell does anyone think they have the right to say this to another mom? Not only are you saying my kid is out of control, but you are insulting me as a mother. Why do you think you have that right? Ever think that maybe I’ve spent countless nights without sleep? Ever think that I’ve tried everything I could think of and I just need to breathe? Ever think that maybe why I do what I do is none of your business? No you don’t because you are stuck in your own world thinking that you are high and mighty enough to shame other moms and think that your are actually helping them.

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Dear all you mom shamers that are mom’s,

Unless someone asks for your advice, keep it to yourself. Worry about your own kids and stop trying to parent mine.

Sincerely, one fed up mom.

What I’ve realized is, about 80% of the moms that’s mom shame other moms are they ones who suck at parenting or have some sort of guilt about what they do in their kids lives.

Don’t read this and then contact me asking if you’ve ever done this to me, because if you have to ask, then obviously you have a guilty mind and probably have done this to me. If you read this and think, “Damn… I said this to Linda last week…” then you are the reason why mom’s can’t get along and you should reevaluate the way you live and parent and stop acting like your God’s greatest gift to motherhood. Sound good?

Sincerely, 

One annoyed mom

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Being Thankful.

Samuel Is Turning 1!

I haven’t really expressed what I am thankful for this thanksgiving season. I started to do the Thankful challenge on Instagram, but it literally only lasted like a day and then I got lazy. But I feel it is important that I do express what I am thankful for. One of the reasons why I feel it is important for me is because, this past year has been hard for me. Like extremely hard. I struggled a lot with anxiety and depression as well as constantly being sick, but just because I struggled, doesn’t mean that i don’t have things to be thankful for. A lot of things to be thankful for actually. Here goes.

ONE:

My husband has helped me a lot with my anxiety and depression. Sometimes, he’s the one who causes my anxiety, but I think that’s most significant others that do that. He has really taken the time to understand what anxiety is and how to handle it with me. He has sat on the bathroom floor with me at 2 am while I had a panic attacks multiple times. He always reassures me that everything will be okay. I am thankful to have someone who understands my anxiety and helps me through it.

TWO:

My kids drive me crazy probably more than any other human beings, but they have also taught me more than any other human beings. I learned a lot patience because of my kids. When you have a toddler, big kid and a teenager, you need patience. Another thing I learned is what genuine love is. Like real unconditional love. I am beyond thankful that I got to experience that kind of love.

THREE:

Having all the problems I’ve had this year, I’ve seen a lot of doctors. So I am thankful for doctors and all the help I have gotten from them.

FOUR:

My family could probably be considered dysfunctional and crazy, but if it weren’t for my family (Parents) I wouldn’t be here. If it weren’t for my family, I wouldn’t be the strong, independent person I am today. I am thankful that I even have a family. I am also thankful for bonus family. Family isn’t just blood or by marriage. Family is people who love you and are there for you. My bonus family has been there for me more than some of my blood family.

FIVE:

As much as I claim to not have friends or want them, I know I have people who would always be there when I need them. I know I have those who would drop what they are doing to come drink wine with me and blog. I know I have those I could call to talk to about anxiety and not feel like a bother. I have those who try to make my day better by inviting me over so I am not alone. I do have those people and I am thankful for them.

SIX:

Just recently, I got a new job that I don’t even have to leave my house for. I am so thankful for that. What I am most thankful for about my new job is that I don’t have to share a toilet with other nasty human beings. I am thankful that I even have a job.

SEVEN:

I am thankful for the internet. I know it’s not a necessity, but blogging has helped me tremendously with my anxiety and depression. It has helped me manage it in a positive way and I have also made a lot of blogging friends in the years I have been blogging.

Here are some other things I am thankful for that are totally not necessities.

 

  1. Peanut butter
  2. Leggings
  3. Electric toothbrushes
  4. Waffles
  5. Peanut butter cheerios
  6. My soft purple blanket
  7. My oil diffuser and oils
  8. My CBD relief cream
  9. Candles
  10. Vacuum cleaners
  11. Radios
  12. Notebooks
  13. Flavored water
  14. Cameras
  15. My laptop
  16. Sewing machine
  17. Cold coffee
  18. Fans
  19. Netflix & Hulu
  20. BBQ food
  21. Planners
  22. Pinterest

 

I am thankful for this cutness!

What are you thankful for? I’d love to hear!!

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5 Ideas to try out this Fall

Fall is here and in the air, well not for us Vegans. It’s still mildly hot but soon jean jacket weather and ugg’s will be upon us as soon as we can blink. There are a bunch of fun things and activities you can do this fall with and without your kids. I’ve only come up with a list of five but I’m sure you can find more near you!

#1 Pumpkin Patches

Typical I know but it’s a fun event to visit while with the littles. When visiting you can pick out pumpkins, go on rides, feed the animals, and some even have hay rides or horse riding!

I will advise this fall when done with the pumpkin patch to check the kids, cloths, and pets for ticks. There has been reports at different patches all over of people getting bit and not checking. So be safe but don’t let that scare you from having some fun.

#2 Trunk or Treats

Every school and church I know has this. Trunk or Treats are a fun way to get out of the house pre Halloween with the kids and let them ware their costumes, supporting the community, and having fun with the activities they have their. Seeing all the different themes to the trunks are a plus too!

My favorite theme by far was a car done by my friend in a skeleton theme! It was the best trunk that year!

# Throw a Costume Party

ADULT ONLY costume/Halloween party is the perfect pass time and fun way to socialize. Adults like to have fun on this holiday too so why not host a party! Have fun games, costume contest, and spiked punch!

Decorate and have a monster of a time with friends, family, or even co workers!

#4 Paint/Carve Pumpkin

Carving Pumpkins together is a fun family activity that everyone can enjoy. Picking out different kinds of pumpkins and outlines! There are so many ways to run wild with pumpkins this year.

However in my house we paint pumpkins, I love seeing their artistic side come to life. They have painted bats to mummy’s. It has been come an arts and crafts project.

#5 Thankful Jar

Getting ready for Thanksgiving is easy, Why not make a thankful jar. Everyday of fall write on a small paper what your thankful for, have the kids write some too! Then on thanksgiving or you can even go up untill Christmas, read all the cute things you are thankful for through the month(s).

So there ya have it folks! What are somethings you are going to try out this fall?

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