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“Nothing should be gender specific.”

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I’ve never been the kind of mom that put a gender specification on toys or clothes or activities. I did however do this not even realizing it… Yesterday I was at Walmart grocery shopping with Averie. We walked down an isle where a previous co-worker and good friend was stocking, and he just loves Averie (He has a five-year-old son). He was talking to Averie and asking her questions about what she likes and one of the things she said was that she likes playing with cars. Well He told Averie that he likes cars too and then I chimed in and said, “Yeah, she likes dirt and dinosaurs too. She loves to be dirty and do boy things, like her dad. I swear, she’s half boy.” He then said, “Why do you say that? Nothing should be gender specific.”

He is so right. Nothing for kids should be gender specific. I can’t believe I even said that. I wasn’t even thinking. Kids are who they are. Girls should be able to play with dinosaurs and cars without being criticized for it. I mean, we all learn about dinosaurs in school and eventually all drive cars, right? Just like boys should be able to play with baby dolls without getting any kind of looks from another judgmental parent. Eventually that boy will either become a dad or play a dad figure in another kid’s life at some point. Having a baby doll prepares them for that. It teaches them nurturing and kindness.

Another time I was at Walmart, I was getting Pull-ups and another mom was down the same isle doing the same thing. She turns to me and says, “Does it really matter what kind of Pull-ups I get for my daughter? I can get her the boy ones, right?” I replied, “Honestly, there is no boy ones or girl ones. They are all the same, just different colors.” She smiled and said, “Good, I’m glad you said that.” I let Averie pick out her own Pull-ups when she with me, and normally, she picks out the blue Paw Patrol ones. It’s pretty much whatever her interests are that week, which we all know that kid’s interests change all the time.

I have never not bought my daughter something that she really wanted because it was in the boy section. Nor will I ever do that. I will also never make a comment like I did at Walmart ever again. I don’t want my daughter to grow up thinking that she can’t play with cars, dinosaurs or in the dirt because it’s for boys. I want her to be able to wear and do whatever she wants and feel comfortable with it. I want her to be able to dress up as Chase from Paw Patrol for Halloween if she wants to. I want her to feel comfortable in anything and everything she does. She isn’t a girl who likes boy things… She’s a girl who likes everything and doesn’t gender categorize. She just doesn’t care about that kind of stuff. If it looks fun or cool, she wants it.

I think we all need to be a little more like our kids. We shouldn’t gender categorize. Our kids like what they like because that is who they are, and we wouldn’t try and change our kids, right? We love them for who they are.

Speaking of kids being who they are… Something has been bothering me lately. One of my friends came out to everyone as gay just recently, and he was terrified to do it. Especially to his mom. This makes me sad that people feel the need that they need to hide and or announce being who they were born as. No one announces that they are straight. Why should someone who is attracted to the same sex feel the need to announce that they are gay or bi-sexual? They shouldn’t, because IT IS WHO THEY ARE. Everyone needs to stop discriminating against someone for being exactly who they are meant to be. It should just be a normal thing to be gay, bi, straight or whatever you want to be. Love is love regardless who it is between. Everyone should be able to love themselves, but others who hate, make it impossible sometimes for people to love themselves for who they are.

Less hate, more love people. Come on, it’s 2018. Hate and discrimination is so outdated. Love and acceptance are in.

Remember, gender categorizing and discriminating are not okay and makes you selfish human being.

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12 must have items for a toddler mom

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ONE:

HAIR TIES. Toddler are mess eaters (They are pretty much messy at everything they do). Keep these suckers in your purse, wallet or bra or wherever when you leave the house, trust me. You never know when you’ll need one. 

TWO:

De-tangler spray… for when they do get food in their hair and refuse to let you brush it out because it hurts. 

THREE:

Color wonder paper and markers because they insist on using markers but can’t be trusted with real ones to not destroy the walls. 

FOUR:

Step stool. They want to almost everything themselves, but can’t reach anything. (Averie helped me with laundry the other day using her step stool. She even started the washer for me.)

FIVE:

Cocoa butter Vaseline works great for their lips. It has helped my toddler more than chap stick ever did. Works great for dried out noses as well. 

SIX:

Potty Seat. WOOO POTTY TRAINING. It’s a pain in the rear for me. She’s stubborn. 

 

SEVEN:

Glow in the dark stars. 

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I just recently took the tv out of Averie’s room and the glow in the dark stars have really helped her to adjust without the tv. 

 

EIGHT:

Leapfrog My pal’s. 

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Leapfrog My Pal Scout/Violet toy. My daughter loves this toy. It’s helped her learn her ABC’s, count, and learn songs. She will talk to this toy all night. 

 

NINE:

Baby doll (for a boy or girl). It teaches them how to care for babies and prepares them for when they are mommies and daddies. 

TEN:

Headache relief for when your toddler insists on being an A-hole all day. 

ELEVEN:

Tablet for when they are absolutely impossible. Trust me, this comes in handy when you want a nap. 

TWELVE:

Wine. Enough said. Mom’s of toddlers will just get it. 

 

What are your essentials for your toddlers, big kids or teens? Let me know down below. 

 

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You know you have a toddler when…

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…they insist on looking in the toilet after you’ve done your business.

you find the fridge open, and the ketchup, pickles and milk on the floor.

you never get a full drink to yourself.

you find your shoes, keys, socks, and brush in their rooms, hidden behind their pillow.

you hear them talking to inanimate objects as if they were people.

the word you hear like 90% of the time is the word snack.

you give them what they ask for and then get yelled at because in 2.5 seconds they decided they didn’t want it and you didn’t already know.

TODDLER: Small creature who is only hungry after you throw away the food they refused to eat the first eighty times you offered it to them.

they refuse to put pants on…

they hide their pants because they don’t want to wear them.

they insist on wearing someone else’s pants.

Pants are for mere mortals.

they never want to take a nap at naptime, but will fall asleep like 2 hours before their bedtime.

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they don’t want to go to sleep at bedtime so they start demanding drinks.

baby shark is stuck in your head 24/7.

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they sing a song about brushing their teeth in the baby shark song melody.

they know how to navigate YouTube better than you do.

they want to “Help” with literally everything you do.

they want to do everything themselves.

you go through an entire box of Band-Aids in a week.

Band-Aids have magical healing powers.

they don’t want to eat what you give them, yet they are always hungry.

they want to eat what is on your plate and not theirs when it’s literally the same food.

 

Do you have a toddler? What are some of the things that your toddler does? Tell me down below in the comments.

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How to drive Mama crazy in 5 easy steps: Toddler Edition

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Motherhood is trying, tiring and sometimes just drives us crazy. Lately, with my girls, I’ve gotten to this point. Almost to the point of day drinking, but not quite. They are both good girls, but are demons when they are together… Mini little demon tornado’s who listen to nothing I say. They know exactly what to do and say to push my buttons. Here’s how they drive me crazy in 5 steps:

ONE:

Lanaia playing with her food and then getting her sister to play with her food, which results in a mess and Averie no longer wanting to eat her food. The part that drives me crazy the most is that Averie was eating her food no problem before her big sister started with her food and told her to do the same thing. 

TWO:

Averie has been doing this thing lately where she’ll scream bloody murder when she doesn’t get what she wants. Literally about everything. I can’t break her of it. I’m to the point where I have to just ignore it when she does it or I’m really going to start day drinking. The worst part is, she knows it drives me crazy and she will do it just to see me get mad. 

THREE:

There’s a perfect way to drive me nuts. Lanaia will ask for something and I’ll tell her no, then she’ll ask why and I’ll explain why (more than once) and then she’ll please a million times like her life depended on it, thinking the more times she says it, the chances of me giving it to her will be in her favor when iin reality she just gets time out. 

FOUR:

Averie likes to literally throw her toys across the room, at the wall, at the window and just all over. This drives me crazy, but it drives me even more crazy when her five year old sister starts doing it with her. Obviously she has more force because she’s stronger, so imagine when it’s like when she throws toys at the wall. Sigh. 

FIVE:

So this is just the cherry on top. Lanaia literally  cries about everything. Not exaggerating. Anytime she does anything, like trips over her own feet and falls 2 inches from the floor ON A PILLOW and cried like she broke a bone. Just the other day, her dad took her and Averie to McDonald’s for ice cream and to play in the play area. Averie is flying all over the play area and Lanaia cries because she’s scared of going up a few steps. This girl cries over flies landing on or near her. lol 

All of these drive me mad. Sometimes I hide in my closet, I’m not going to lie. 

What are the things your kids do that drive you crazy? I love stories, especially if they’re not mine. 

 

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What I didn’t learn until after I became a Mother.

20180925_075950_0001I’ve always wanted to be a Mom, I knew this was my calling. I wouldn’t change it for the world, but there were things I didn’t know until I became a mother. Here is my list of what I learned after I joined motherhood.

ONE:

I learned to not take the little things for granted, such as peeing alone, getting to shower everyday, getting to bed at a decent time and sleep. I took all of these for granted before I became a mom, and now I’m lucky if I get any of these. Sometimes I’m lucky enough to shower more than 2 times a week, so I’m happy for that. I never get to use the bathroom in peace though.

TWO:

I learned how needed I was. Before I was a Mom, I never felt needed or truly wanted. After having my daughter, that’ll all changed. I know I am needed, wanted and relied on. This is the best feeling ever… to feel truly needed and wanted.

THREE:

I never know that I could love more than I already did. I honestly didn’t think it was possible, but after having my baby, it’s like my heart expanded to make unlimited room for love for her. It’s the kind of love that will destroy you if anything were to happen to them.

FOUR:

I never thought I’d believe in holiday characters again. My daughter is too young to understand right now, but when she’s older, I can’t wait to bring that magic into her life.

FIVE:

I didn’t know my eyes would truly open to who is really a friend or not. I lost a lot of friends when I got pregnant and even more after I gave birth, which is honestly a blessing because they were never truly my friends anyways and becoming a mom helped weed out the ones who were fake.

SIX:

I didn’t know I’d ever feel the pain of another human beings pain to the highest extent. I never knew that another human could affect me this way. When my baby is sad, hurt, sick, I feel it… deeply. I hurt for her, with her and I cry for her.

SEVEN:

I never knew that hearing a little voice call out for me in excitement could completely turn a bad day around. I never knew a sweet, simple smile could fill me with so much joy. I never knew that this same sweet, simple smile could take my sadness away in less than 2 seconds.

Motherhood is full of learning experiences. Some take time getting use to and some fill the hole you’ve had in your soul instantly. Yes, things are drastically different, and harder, but more than worth it. Motherhood is the greatest learning experience I’ve ever been apart of.

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You know you’re a mom when…

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ONE:
Most the stuff in your purse is for your kid.

TWO:
When you know the theme song to Daniel Tiger and super why.

THREE:
You know all the songs on Trolls, AND sing along with them.

FOUR:
You ask, “Did you poop?” more than any other question.

FIVE:
You don’t know what peeing alone is like anymore.

SIX:
You love naptime more than your child does.

SEVEN:
You’ve caught vomit in your bare hands in mid air with no second thought.

EIGHT:
You constantly buy unnecessary kids clothes instead of clothes for yourself that you desperately need.

NINE:
A lot of your groceries consist of snacks.

TEN:
You have to hide in the closet to eat your bag of Cheetos in peace without having to share.

ELEVEN:
You depend on coffee or another caffeinated substances to get through every day.

TWELVE:
You own more kid movies than adult movies.

THRITEEN:
When your belongings such as your phone, glasses and wallet go missing on a daily basis.

FOURTEEN:
You get excited over another human being pooping in the toilet.

FIFTEEN:
You watch more kid movies than anything else.

SIXTEEN:
You sleep at the very edge of your bed when your kid is sleeping in it with you.

SEVENTEEN:
You find the quiet suspicious, not relaxing.

EIGHTEEN:
You find toys in the refrigerator.

NINTEEN:
You find little shoes in the garbage can.

TWENTY:
Your house looks like a huge tornado hit it.

I’m sure all my Mama friends can relate to all of these. If you have more to add to the list, please, drop it in the comments below, I’d love to hear them.

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