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THURSDAY How-To be an essential part of society.

We all know that we need more decent human beings in society. There is so much ignorance and hate in the world already. It’s sad. Too many horrible things are happening because of ignorance and hate. Too many people ignore the red flags and honestly, in my opinion, that is just as bad as being the red flag. Here’s how you can be an essential part of society.

Be smart

Be smart. Try in everything you do- finances, choices, surroundings, etc.  Be somebody and follow your passion. Don’t be average. Strive to be who you really know you can be. Use your intelligence for something beneficial to you as well as other.

Help Others.

Always be willing to help someone in need. Help someone who doesn’t have what you have. Do charity work. Feed the homeless. Donate your things instead of selling them. Everyone at some point in their lives need help.

Discipline.

Self discipline- It is the ability to control one’s impulses, emotions, desires and behavior. It is being able to turn down immediate pleasure and instant gratification in favor of gaining the long-term satisfaction and fulfillment from achieving higher and more meaningful goals.
Disciplining your kids- Discipline isn’t just about giving kids consequences. Instead, it ensures children are gaining the skills they need to become responsible adults. You are molding your children for the future. They will eventually be a bigger part of society and no discipline isn’t going to prepare them at all for what is in store when they are adults.

Compassion

Compassion is a notion that is profoundly ingrained in our human consciousness. It has been proven to be crucial to our well-being in a world now shared by more than seven billion people. Indeed, the capacity for compassion in the human mind and heart, recently a topic of study in the neurosciences and the subject of ongoing discussions in psychology, ethics, literature, and theology, may be key to the very survival of humankind as well as the environment we share with other creatures.

Integrity.

A person with integrity won’t lie, will keep their word and won’t betray you. They won’t go behind your back, badmouth you, go after another person’s partner or cheat on you. They stand by a code of ethics that may make them foreseeable, but safe to the heart and one’s sanity. No unpleasant surprises come from someone with the most desirable traits in a good human. People who display the best human qualities follow a code of ethics that tends to be, incorruptible, and they comply to principles of common decency.

Humor.

Life has its ups and downs. There will be good times, bad times, hard times and easy times. Everything is easier if one maintains a sense of humor, or at least surrounds oneself with those who have one. There is a reason that poll after poll shows that most people desire a sense of humor in their partners. I also feel that someone who makes me laugh most of the time will less likely make me cry too often either.

Understanding.

Bring empathy — the skill of putting yourself in someone’s shoes — to all of your interactions. Listen actively. Listening to someone talk is a vital part of understanding them, but to truly be understanding you need to be an active listener. Look past first impressions. This isn’t to say that first impressions aren’t important — they are — but more often than not people make their mind up completely about someone without enough information to do so.

 

Everyone should have these qualities. Although we all know that not everyone will have these qualities. If they did, we wouldn’t have so many problems and this much hatred in the world.

jessie

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Monday Rants: Keep your opinion to yourself.

I don’t get offended easily. I usually just brush things off, but there is something that has bothered me to my core lately. Which irritates me because of the sheer fact that things don’t easily offend me.

Here’s what bothers me… Unwanted Opinions. I know that people do this, they give their un-wanted opinion’s and this is in fact kind of normal, but what I’ve seen lately is that these people are beginning to really not care where, when or how they insert their un-wanted opinion’s. They don’t have boundaries They don’t care if they cross a line or hurt someone.

I think honesty is the best policy, as everyone should, but there is a difference between being honest and just being ignorant. There is no valid or beneficial reason to be ignorant to someone.  Here’s what I mean…

  • Telling someone that what they believe in (such as religion) is ridiculous just because you don’t believe it.
  • Telling someone that their choice of what to do with a loved one after they pass is creepy or weird just because it’s not your preference.
  • Telling someone that you would never dress your kid in something like that because in your opinion, it’s ugly.
  • Telling someone that you don’t buy this brand or that brand because it’s the cheap gross brand.
  • Telling someone that the new watch that was gifted to them is hideous just because you don’t like it.

These are just a few of the many examples I have, but none the less, they are all just so rude and heartless to say to another human being with feelings. I just don’t understand how a human being with brains and a natural sense of compassion could be so ignorant to others. How the heck does this benefit someone? Do they feel empowered? Do they feel like they are better than others and that’s why they do it?
I don’t treat people like this. I don’t have a natural sense of ignorance to just not watch what I say to others.

I JUST DON’T GET IT!

Rant over.

jessie

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Something on my mind lately.

Lately everyone is having or just recently had a baby.
(Must be something in the air)
“I can feel it coming in the air tonight..”
Too much caffeine and not enough sleep for sure.
HAHAHAHAHA
Okay, back to the main topic here.
I have heard a million different things from a million different people about how to raise a baby, what not to do, whats “best” for the baby, yada yada yada.
Most of what I hear is just that preference of the person telling me.
The one topic I hear about most is about breast feeding.
I think breastfeeding is absolutely the best way to go.
[Fun fact: Did you know that breast milk can change according to what baby needs? for example, when it’s hot, your breast milk will have more water in it to keep your baby hydrated!]
 
Anyways, Yes breast is best because it is a living substances and can adapt to individual needs of your baby but, some women have a hard time breast feeding, some don’t produce enough or fast enough or even at all sometimes and that’s nothing to be ashamed about.
With breast feeding, mother and baby get that special bonding time when nursing which is great but, what about dad?
Which is why I also think formula is great too. It is the best alternative to breast milk and dad is able to get that special bonding time by feeding baby and not to mention it’s sometimes easier and it’s alright to take the easier route every now and then.
There definitely major pros for both feeding methods.
My daughter is both breast and bottle fed and that’s okay! She is healthy and happy and that is all that matters.
I don’t produce enough fast enough for her so I sometimes supplement with formula. Sometimes she’ll be just fine with only breast feeding and sometimes she needs a little extra. I use to only breast feed until I found out that I don’t produce enough fast enough for her. I would be nursing her all day long. Literally. It got very tiring. It’s okay to need a break. Besides, being as tired and frustrated as I was because she wasn’t getting all that she wanted, isn’t good for her. She could sense my frustration and would become frustrated too. Sometimes I was just too exhausted to pump so Erich would give her a bottle while I slept. Pumping was hard for me. I was never able to pump after nursing her and by the time I was able to pump, she would be hungry again. The few times I actually got to pump and save what I pumped, it took me over an hour to pump 2 oz. So I would have either been nursing all day or pumping all day.
[If I were ever able to pump extra and save, I would love to give it to a mom who wants her baby to have breast milk but can’t breast feed.]
To all the mom’s who strictly breast feed, kudos to you! If I could and not feel like a walking emotionally wrecked zombie, I most certainly would. I don’t think it is okay to make someone else feel uncomfortable or bad about not breast feeding. You have no idea how that person deals with situations. It may be a lot different that how you deal with situations.
To all the mom’s who breast and bottle feed, That’s great. I know how you feel. You are not alone in this and it is okay to give your baby formula as well as breast milk. It’s better to know that your baby is full instead of wondering.
To all the mom’s who strictly bottle feed, You are doing great. If you feel that formula is best for your baby for whatever reason, that’s perfectly alright. Baby is still being fed and getting nutrients that baby needs. Like I said, formula is the next best thing to breast milk.
That being said, I am so over mom’s telling other mom’s how to raise their babies or how they should be fed.
Don’t just assume that because someone chooses to bottle feed instead of breast feeding that they are being selfish to their baby. You have NO idea what they might be dealing with. I have friends that would of loved to breastfeed but just couldn’t.
As long as babies are being fed,
That is all that matters.
 She Likes to hide her face now when she’s nursing. <3