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73 Questions Vogue parody

73 Questions was popularized on Vogue’s YouTube channel. Typically, celebrities are asked 73 questions in a rapid-fire style. Now, bloggers have started their own version in a way which is something fun to take part in to get to know them.

I huge thank you to Sandy from Sunday Morning With Sandy for nominating me for this rapid style questioner!

1.What’s your usual Starbuck’s order?

Hmmm Either the passion fruit tea or anything mango they have. I love mango.

2. What does your workstation look like?

Since I work from home, I have a desktop computer and desk and then my laptop on a small tray right next to it.

3. Favorite food?

Oh man, this is a hard one. I LOVE street tacos and avocados! I could live off of both of those!

4. Favorite author?

This is also a tough one. I love many!

5. What do you think of open relationships?

I think they are great if there is 100% trust and no jealousy. It definitely won’t work if there is jealousy.

6. What is your favorite video game?

Mortal combat, Anything on the Nintendo (Yes, the old one) and resident evil.

7. Guilty Pleasure Food?

Anything with peanut butter in it. Fastbreaks are my absolute favorite!

8. Favourite movie?

I have so many! Titanic, Phantom of the Opera, The notebook, blade and so many more.

9. Favourite book?

A child called it by David Pelzer

10. Twitter or Instagram?

Instagram all the way. I don’t Tweet

11. Desktop or laptop?

I have both but prefer my laptop

12. Best advice you’ve ever received?

You decide your own happiness.

13. What project are you working on right now?

A few blog posts, packing for Utah trip

14. Favourite colour?

Purple and Green

15. Did you get good grades in school?

I got all A’s and B’s.

16. Dream job?

Photographer and a pediatric nurse.

17. Play any sports?

Being a mom is a sport

18. Do you have a degree?

A degree in motherhood. lol

19. Nationality?

American

20. What is your favourite kind of blog post?

Anything about motherhood, recipes, and just anything truthful

21. What do you like to collect?

Purses, cameras, rocks, and my new collections is dream catchers. I have about 10 dream catchers now.

22. Describe yourself in three words?

23. If you were a rapper what would your stage name be?

Blunt, Sarcastic and real.

Mouthy J. LOL

24. Who is the last person you DMed?

Stephanie, my step daughter’s mom.

25. What’s on top of your wish list right now?

To move as far away from Las Vegas and the shitty judgmental people here as I can

26. Sorting house?

Gryffindor. I am the biggest HP nerd there is. I know all the spells and can recite the movies word for word.

27. How many tattoos do you have?

One really bad one, for now anyways.

28. What are you most grateful for this year?

I am grateful that I got to see who my real friends are and weed out the rest, my job because I work from home and definitely my family.

29. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you this month?

Being able to go visit my Grandma so many times.

30. What’s the best thing that’s happened to you today?

It’s only 11:30am, so not much. lol

31. What’s the best thing ever?

Funny cat videos.

32. Favourite season?

Fall!!! I love the chill in the air, the color of the leafs and most of all, HALLOWEEN!

33. Favourite holiday?

^^^^^ Halloween^^^^^^

34. What fictional character do you relate to the most?

None, really.

35. Do you like surprises?

Depends what kind of surprise it is.

36. What’s the biggest surprise you’ve ever had?

When I got pregnant with my girl and the second biggest is when my best friend made it to Vegas for my Graduation without me knowing a thing. It’s really hard to surprise me.

37. Which surprise made you cry.

I don’t think any surprise has made me cry…

38. What’s the best surprise you’ve given someone else?

When I told my husband I was pregnant. lol

39. Do you like muffins?

Only blueberry ones.

40. Do you cook often?

I use to, but my husband is a better cook so he does it most of the time.

41. What’s your favourite dessert?

OH LORRRDDD. Strawberry shortcake ice cream bar, cookies n’ cream ice cream, mint chocolate chip ice cream, glazed doughnuts…. the list could go on.

42. Is there a dessert you don’t like?

Flan, Fruit cake, anything that has to do with jello, and most cakes.

43. Cake or pie?

Depends on the choices I have.

44. What’s your least favourite food?

Seafood

45. What’s your favourite condiment?

Ketchup

46. It’s 4am on a random Saturday. What are you eating?

Who the heck gets up that early and eats?!

47. If you could teach a college class, what would it be called?

Know your self worth 101

48. Best animated film?

Toy story, Up, and the Lion King

49. What has a guy said or done to impress you?

I can’t recall. lol

50. Best thing to do on a first date?

Hmmm, Dinner and play 20 questions.

51. Worst thing to do on a first date?

Fart.

52. What’s the best pick up line?

Are there really any good pick up lines though?

53. Best comic book character?

I don’t read comic books.

54. Name three things which can always be found in your purse.

Vaseline, Chap stick and headache medicine

55. Favourite drink?

Dr. Pepper with lemon

56. If you could play a historical character in a movie who would it be

No one, I am a terrible actor. lol

57. Kittens or puppies?

I prefer puppies but I have 4 kittens in my house right now.

58. Favorite sushi roll?

None. Gross.

59. What lipstick do you use?

I don’t wear lipstick.

60. What foundation do you use?

I don’t wear cover up anymore, terrible for your face,

61. Blow dry or air dry?

Usually air dry

62. Who is your fashion icon?

Anyone who wears leggings and a t-shirt…?

63. Favourite Disney character?

Ariel

64. What are you doing tomorrow?

Going to Utah

65. Movie you laughed the hardest through?

Too many to count.

66. Movie that made you cry?

The notebook, a walk to remember and pretty much anything by Nicholas Sparks.

67. If you could sing a duet with anybody, who would you choose?

Kelly Clarkson, Sam Smith, Brett Young

68. If your life was a song what would the title be?

My life would be a lot of songs….

69. What’s your favourite animal?

Zebras and otters

70. Favorite illustrator?

Don’t have one

71. Person you’d like to have coffee with?

Gerard Butler

72. What country would you like to visit?

Spain and Ireland

73. Best way to decompress?

Blast music or read in a quiet room

I Nominate:

Michele from Confessions of Parenting
Kirsti-Marie Michele from Life as the Lonsdales
Laura from The butterfly Mother
Talya from Motherhood: The real deal
Amy from Adventures of a mom with a wife

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I found where I belong and it ain’t in Las Vegas

I have lived in Las Vegas my entire life and honestly, I hate it. I hate how noisy it is here. I don’t like how many intoxicated people I see on a daily basis here and most of all, I don’t like that I can’t see the stars at night and that there is hardly anything green here anymore. I absolutely hate how hot it gets here. The heat and I don’t do well together.

Every since I can remember, my family and I would go visit my Grandma in Utah. Lately, I’ve been visiting more than I ever have. This past weekend, I was there and I was sitting outside around 10:30 pm, just looking at the sky because the whole sky was covered in millions of stars that I could actually see! For once, I felt like I belonged somewhere. I felt actual happiness and a sense of relief. I didn’t want to go back to Las Vegas.

You would think that spending 28 years in Las Vegas, I would be use to everything here, but I’m not. I will never be use to the heat, the people, the scenery or anything of Las Vegas because I simply do not belong here. I don’t think I ever have.

Everything in Utah is prettier. It doesn’t get as hot in Utah as it does in Las Vegas and there is actually GREEN.
I’ve said I wanted to move to Utah before and I am always told the same sentence… “If you move, you won’t have anything to do there, like you do here.” Like what? Gamble? Go to clubs? Smoke weed because it’s legal? I hate gambling, I am not a clubber at all, I’ve only been to one club twice and I don’t even smoke weed anymore. The things I love to do is take pictures of scenery, paint and hide/look for rocks, and blog. I can do all those things in Utah and probably enjoy it a lot more than I do here. Besides, I want my daughter to be able to grow up in a place where she can go outside and play with no worry. I don’t have that in Vegas. I want her to grow up with nature.

My grandma has a lot of plants in her yard. She’s got 3 apricot trees, a cherry tree, pecan tree, grape vine, a pomegranate tree, a fig tree as well as many different flowers. I’ve tried to grow things here in Vegas, but they just don’t last. I want to be able to garden.

I have made a decision!

I have made the decision to move to Utah by this time next year at the latest. A few people are probably unhappy about it, but I just can’t live my whole life here in Las Vegas, it’s just not for me. I am miserable here and have been ever since I can remember. I am happy in Utah and feel like I belong there. I’ve just met to many judgmental, awful people in Las Vegas and have a lot of terrible memories, more than good ones.

Here comes some history!

This is an old winery that is on my grandma’s street. It was built in 1868 by John C. Naegle. Click HERE for full history on this winery, it’s actually pretty interesting.

This is what it looks like today. Pretty cool that there’s a piece of history right across the street from my Grandma’s house, right?

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How to work from home when you have a three year old demon

Since November of last year, I’ve been working from my bedroom doing tech support for a security company and I love the fact that I don’t have to leave the house, but boy did I underestimate how hard it would be to do being a mom who is always home with kids. Especially my threenager. If you are a dedicated reader, you’ll remember a post I did months ago about the Pros and Cons of working from home. I love that I get to be around my daughter more but being around her more makes me want a break more. This post is more as an update from my previous one. So, my daughter knows that I work from home and knows my hours and when to be quiet, for the most part…but sometimes, she’s an absolute demon and will find any reason to scream like a banshee when I am on the phone with a customer. I’ve had to seriously prepare like it was the zombie Apocalypse on my work days when dealing with her. I don’t have a babysitter, because I don’t want to pay one, if you’re wondering. Here’s what I do:

SNACKS SNACKS SNACKS

If you really can’t get a babysitter or don’t want one like me, make sure you stock up on snacks at your work station so if your kid is in the room with you, you can keep them fed easily. I work early in the morning, so my daughter will wake up when it’s breakfast time and I can’t always just get off phones to get her cereal. I keep granola bars, fruit snacks, and any other healthy breakfast-like snack near me during work hours. I now have a mini fridge in my room, so I can keep a small glass of milk and juice in there too. Oh, a tv tray is a great thing to keep in there too.

Child gates

Since my daughter is only three, there is no way in hell she can roam the house alone. She will destroy it. So, I put a child gate up in the hallway blocking off the living room, making so she’ll only be able to go into my room or her room. She hates the gate but doesn’t fight me about it too often. I just tell her if she goes in the living room by herself, the cats will eat her. Don’t judge me, it works.

Entertainment

I don’t know if tablets are your thing, but that’s what keeps my daughter the most occupied. I also bring coloring books and crayons in my room as well to keep her entertained. Since I have the rest of the house blocked off, my daughter can only go in her room or mine so if she gets bored in mine, she’ll go play with her toys in hers.

WIRELESS

If you work from home and are attached to your computer by a headset, I HIGHLY recommend getting a wireless headset or a headset with a really long cord so you can wipe your kids butt. No joke, it was a nightmare before I had a super long cord.

I’M SOOO THIRSTY

Stock up on juices and water in your work space, because kids are always so thirsty and want drinks when you are in the middle of something. For whatever reason, when my daughter says she’s thirsty, she does not stop saying it until I give her something. So I keep waters mainly, right next to me for that reason.

Working from home is awesome, but it can be difficult when you don’t have a babysitter or when your kid is a demon like mine, but these tips are how I handle it and it turns out alright like 90% of the time.

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Am I a good person even though I am not religious?

I grew up in the Mormon religion, which I never thought was the right path for me and have recently resigned from. There are many reasons why I did this but I will not go into that because I don’t want to deter anyone away from the religion of their choosing.

To answer my own question…

Yes, I am a good person even though I am not religious. Just because I am not religious, doesn’t mean I don’t have my own beliefs. I know I am a good person because I am forgiving and give people multiple chances even when I probably shouldn’t. I know I’m a good person because instead of shutting down, I talk to the ones about what they are doing that is bothering me. I know I’m a good person because I don’t judge anyone, not for their race, religion, their beliefs or sexuality. I have never judged anyone based on the religion I was apart of. I know I am a good person because I don’t make anyone feel bad for their choices just because I don’t like them. I know I’m a good person because I am someone that can be confided in, and someone that anyone can go to for support.

I am super easy to be friends with and get along with…until you start telling that what I’m doing is a sin and looking down upon me for it…until you start telling others about what I confided in you with…until you let what I say to you go in one ear and out the other…until you judge me for what I do because YOU believe it’s a sin in YOUR religion. That is where I will cut you out. I don’t care what anyone thinks of me because I know I am a good person and that isn’t because I read the bible and go to church every Sunday. It’s because I have morals and standards, which I have not seen in most people who are religious…

You are a good person too

You don’t have to be religious to be a good person and you certainly don’t have to read the bible and go to church to be a good person. Not hurting people intentionally, being there for someone, not judging anyone for any reason, not shoving religion and the bible down someone’s throat, and just being kind to everyone makes you a good person. Don’t listen to anyone who says that you need church, religion or the bible to have a happy life and to be a good person, because it’s not true. You make your life happy no matter what you believe in.

Let me clarify something

I don’t mind if religion is your thing. I’ll be friends with you. I don’t mind if you read the bible and go to church. I’ll be friends with you. I don’t mind if you like the same sex or are transgender or whatever your sexual preference is. I’ll be friends with you. I do not judge and am easy to get along with if you do the same. Unfortunately, I’ve had too many people in my life tell me I am doing wrong or am sinning because it’s against their religion. Guess what guys? Forcing a religion, the bible or even god down someone’s throat is wrong. Telling someone they need religion, the bible or god in their life to have happiness is wrong. I was told this phrase that my happiness and such were up to me and God. This is wrong also. By saying this to someone one you know isn’t religious is just looking down on them. You are trying to push God or your beliefs on them.

If you are going to be religious, cool, but don’t force it on me and don’t judge me. Just because I am no longer religious, doesn’t mean I don’t know how religion is and one of the biggest sins in religion is to judge… Might want to really think about that when you are practicing your faith before you shake your head at someone in disappointment.. Just saying.

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Forgiveness is necessary, trust me

The last couple of years, forgiveness has been my struggle. Everyone’s natural first thought is to get revenge, to make that person who hurt you, hurt the same way. We all know that revenge is not the way to go. It just creates more hatred in this world, and we all know that there is enough of that already. You don’t want to contribute to that cycle of hurt, so break it.

When you don’t forgive

Not forgiving someone can do extensive damage to yourself. You will carry around that grudge with you and feel hurt and anger all the time. As much as you don’t think you will, you will portray it on others who did nothing to you. Now you are causing hurt to those who didn’t hurt you. You won’t be able to live your life happily because you are carrying that hurt around with your still. Holding grudges like that can cause an array of mental health issues. That’s no way to live.

When you forgive

You are letting go of the hurt, anger and pain you were caused so you can continue to live your life happily. You are freeing your mind of the memory of what they did and the hurt they caused you so that you can really be happy and live your life. You are being the bigger person (I know that sounds cliche, but it’s true) and it takes more strength and energy to be the bigger person. You forgive for yourself rather than for the person who hurt you.

My story

In 2017, my life long best friend betrayed me in the most hurtful way. I am not going into detail because it’s not necessary, but I held on to that pain and hurt for over a year. I kept it inside me and let me tell you, it caused more issues for me than it would to have just forgiven her. My anxiety and depression sky rocketed and I isolated myself from the world for that long. I trusted no one after what she did. I think needless to say, but I was miserable.
I’ve been hurt a lot by friends and family, but I forgave them all so I don’t hold on to that anger and hurt anymore.

Just because you forgave someone doesn’t mean you are going to let them back in your life the same way they were or even at all and that’s okay. You forgive for yourself, not for them.

Honestly, if I didn’t forgive the people that are in my life today, they wouldn’t be there. People are human and human’s make mistakes. All are forgivable, not always forgettable though, and that can certainly determine if they are meant to be in your life or not.

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Judgmental people are ugly

This post may seem more as a rant, but I’ve dealt with a lot of judgement lately that this needs to be said.

Where do people get the right to judge another person? Why do they get the right to disown someone because of their belief? Most religions are like that. I grew up Mormon and let me tell you, that religion are the most judgmental group of people I’ve ever met. They look down upon you for a lot. They look down upon you for being gay or wearing in modest clothing. The Mormon religion says it’s not okay to judge another, but that’s exactly what they do.

Here’s an example. When I was a teenager, I participated in a Church function where we impersonated pioneers and pulled wagons. Well, it was the middle of summer and I had to wear a long thick pioneer skirt and a bonnet. Well, once we settled and pitched our tents, I tried to take my skirt off because I had shorts underneath (Modest shorts too), and when I walked out, one of the camp leaders said, You can’t wear those, they aren’t appropriate. You need to put the skirt back on.” Guys, it was over 100 degrees outside and NO shade. I stayed in my tent the majority of the time so I didn’t have to wear the skirt…

Here is another form of judgment I’ve had to deal with. Friends… Yes, the ones who are suppose to not judge and have your back. Well, I was judged a lot with this person. I was judged because of my choice to eat an edible.A FREAKING EDIBLE. I don’t do drugs, and I don’t hurt people, but I was frowned upon because of eating an edible… I was also judged (and told it was a sin) because I was talking about divorce because of verbal and mental abuse. Apparently, because it’s a sin in RELIGION, I should stay with someone who hurts me and work it out… I was talked to like I was beneath this person because I choose to not follow a religion. This person tried to push religion and religious events down my throat multiple times even after I told them no. (If you were to ask them about any of this, they’d deny it…) Newsflah: I think ALL religions are cults and are a form of control. Want to judge me now?

Judging other is ugly and it makes you an ugly person. Disowning someone because of their belief is disgusting and is probably the worst kind of judging there is. Sadly, I have family treating other family like this…
Newsflash: Just because someone doesn’t believe what you do, doesn’t mean they are evil and it certainly doesn’t mean that you are better than them. If you are part of a religion, more than likely you are being taught that judging is wrong, right? Well disowning someone because they choose to have their own beliefs is wrong, and you know it.

Growing up, I have been judged for a lot of things, a lot of hurtful things. I was judged for what I wore when I was wearing tank tops. I was judged for feeding my daughter formula because I couldn’t produce enough for her. I was judged because I chose to not practice religion anymore. I was made out to be a terrible mother, a whore and a sinner because of my choices. I am a good human being with a huge heart. I wouldn’t hurt a fly on purpose.

Dear those who like to judge,
You are not the cat’s ass. You are not better than me because you believe that going to church every Sunday is going to save you from going to hell (It won’t by the way). You are not godly just because you read the bible and practice some of it. You do NOT have a right to judge anyone for any reason. Oh, and don’t shove your religion down someones throat because you think it’s right.
NO ONE is perfect, no matter how much of the bible you read, no matter how much you go to church. Stop acting like you are.
Sincerely,
Someone who is tired of being judged.