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Just Let Me Mom!!

I don’t know why but it seems like lately everyone feels the need to tell me what I should or shouldn’t be doing with MY daughter.. either because they don’t like what I’m doing or they think they know best because of something they did with their kid. News flash! Just because you were comfortable doing certain things with your kid and it worked for them, doesn’t mean I want to do it with mine. Our kids are Different. 

I decided before Averie was born that I wasn’t going to put her in daycare for many reasons that I shouldn’t have to explain to anyone but I’ve had to lately… 
1. There has been tons of reports about child abuse in daycares. I don’t care what anyone has to say about finding the right one, because it can happen even in the best, highest cost one. You don’t know those people! I don’t frown upon people who have had to put their kids in daycare because sometimes you have no choice but it’s just something I am not comfortable with and if I have the option of not doing so then I’m not going to and I think I have that right as a mother! The list of people I trust with my child is about the size of a dime!

2. I would rather Averie grow up getting to know family and friends, not daycare workers. At least I know she is with people I’ve known most my life and I trust.

3. I JUST DON’T WANT TO. And I don’t have to. I am her mother.

So… I stopped breastfeeding Averie around 5 months old because no matter what I did or tried (Which I tried pretty much everything to produce more), I just couldn’t produce enough to satisfy her. I stopped producing enough to satisfy her around 4 months but I kept trying. I had been supplementing with formula since she was 2 months and boy did I hear about that from multiple people…“You know, that stuff isn’t good for her… Shes crying because you fed her formula…” and then I heard some more when I quit breastfeeding all together. Isn’t a baby being fed all that matters?! Why do other moms have to make us new moms feel bad about stuff like this?! We already feel awful about not being able to.
I could go on and on about all the things I’ve been judged or criticized for in the 7 months of her life… It’s sad really. Unless I ask for your opinion, keep it to yourself. Just because you were a mom first or have been a mom for 10 years longer than I have doesn’t mean you know what is best for MY child and I. There is no need whatsoever to tell me I am doing something wrong  because it’s not something you would do… Just let me raise my own child, let me figure out whats best or not. 
All Mothers and children and different  from one another. Stop pushing your “educated” opinion on other moms. Stop judging them for not breastfeeding. Just stop making them feel bad.
I am a new mom and I will figure out ON MY OWN (Unless otherwise asked) what works and what doesn’t work for my baby! 
Haha I love this Meme! 

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